25-year-old pregnant woman abandoned by husband after he falls in love with someone else, the delusional couple think they will be friends with her and be there for the birth: “I told them they need a reality check”

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Apr 25, 2025 2:00 PM EDT

Hey there ladies and gentlemen. There's nothing worse than being cheated on, or your partner falling in love with someone else. The only thing worse than being cheated on or betrayed is being cheated on while you're pregnant. You're so full of emotions and hormones, and it's supposed to be such a happy and special time in someone's life. To have all of that love and expectation taken away in a slight to your heart is the worst feeling. It's as if someone put a huge ice cube inside of you. There's no excuse for that kind of behavior, but the only silver lining is that you found out about who he really is before you actually spent your entire lives together. 

In the story below, the protagonist is a woman who was 11 weeks pregnant when her husband told her he's in love with someone else. Not just anyone else, but a woman who one of his friends is with. They certainly deserve each other, am I right? But not only does he leave her, but the affair partner tries to be her friend. They're both pregnant now, and the AP thinks that she's going to have a shared baby shower with her partner's ex-wife. How much more delusional can someone be? Read the full story for all the juicy details. 

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    AITA for refusing to treat my ex's sort-of girlfriend like another parent to my babies and sitting down with my ex and her to lay out some facts about how things will go?

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    1 (25f) am pregnant with twins. Their father (26m) and I were together for almost a decade. Things seemed great at the start of my pregnancy but then 11ish weeks in he told me he had feelings for Amy (24f) who is/was b fits with one of
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    his two best friends. He told me he didn't feel like we should stay together just for the babies and we'd work it out. I told him that was fine. That I wasn't going to stay while he had any kind of affair be it emotional or physical with her any longer. He told me nothing physical had happened
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    yet and I told him I didn't care if it did or didn't because even if it hadn't, that was a yet and if it wasn't Amy it would be someone else.
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    Amy and him ended up together, which came as no surprise, but then he told me he hated being away from me and he regretted doing this to us. I heard him out for a week before I made it clear that there was no going back and we would never be a couple again.
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    His relationship with Amy has been on and off. Even when they're off they try to present as this united front and have wanted me to involve both in pregnancy stuff. Amy wanted to talk baby names with me and she was wanting us to go shopping for baby stuff together. She even
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    wanted to do a joint shower so both of us could be focused on. She even tried to say how crazy it was for me to be having twins when ex and her have no twins in their families. Like she counted herself and her family in that. I
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    ignored most of those requests and I communicated clearly and through text or email for anything I did respond to.
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    But it was getting crazier with the requests and the thing that bothered me most is they are not stable at all. And they're trying to put that on me. Saying if they were treated as a couple who were going to be equally a part of the babies lives they wouldn't have so
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    much trouble. My ex even said he felt like he had to be with me to be a real dad to the babies.
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    When they mentioned her being at the birth I knew we all needed to sit down and talk. I didn't trust my ex to be honest about what I'd say and so I told them we could meet once and talk it all out. They met me with a bunch of crazy expectations. Like how both of
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    them would come to see the babies at my house when his visitation would start (overnights don't start until 4 to 6 months of new babies in our state). They wanted all of us to make decisions and they were thinking she could be mama to the babies.
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    I let them talk and I wrote down all the expectations they had and then I told them they were crazy to expect all that. I said if my ex wants to be present at the birth I'm okay with that. If they want to discuss things between themselves then I cannot stop
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    them. But I won't be taking her advice on baby names. Discussions will be between me and ex. I told them if they were together when my ex started overnights I could not stop Amy from being there but she was not coming to my house. I told them if
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    they were in a stable relationship and settling down maybe we could all work together for the benefit of the children involved. But if they're on/off the whole time it won't happen. I said I want my babies to be the priority but that didn't mean I was out here looking for them to have a second
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    mom or for the two of them to try and outvote me and push what they want.
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    And I told my ex that if he and Amy break up for good, or if he misses the kids and wants to be around more, that it won't convince me to take him back. I told him I was serious about that and he needed to fully accept that.
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    And I brought that up because some of his body language and how he was looking at me made me feel like he was being too intimate for two people who are not a couple anymore and never will be. Amy said it was the confusion of everything and if I
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    could take them as a package deal he'd find it easier. I told her I had already told them the reality of everything.
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    They tried to argue but I just left once I realized they weren't going to stay calm or discuss things reasonably. My ex has emailed a few times in the days since and he told me I need to work with them instead of against them and I'm making all this harder than it should be and to think of our
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    babies. He said he's trying to be an involved dad. I reminded him I'm not stopping him.
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    But AITA for how I'm handling this? I'm trying to put the babies first but I don't think that means treating Amy as mommy 2 and acting like this is some family unit when they can't even stay together in the 4ish months since the breakup.
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    Cute-Profession99... 17h ago Lawyer up and fast
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    Hedgehog Busines... • 16h ago "Shw wanted to do a joint shower so both of us could be focused on"?????????
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    Like, she is becoming a mother because her on/off boyfriends ex is pregnant? NTA I would call the cops - on her the minute she is on your property
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    • Sea_Firefighter_45... 17h ago NTA. You need a lawyer this is nuts and so are they.
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    • brightcb 17h ago I would be a very wary of Amy. She sounds unstable. Does she want to be you? She is not only unreasonable but sounds obsessed with you and your pregnancy. It's very strange. I would not want her near the children.
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    Lori_D • 17h ago NTA. To be fair Amy sounds mentally unstable to be pushing for involvement with YOUR babies. I think you're handling with crazy situation very well, so good for you. Good luck.
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